Pressure

"Matthew Phillips" (flatsidewaysfl) 12/15/2014 at 11:37 • Filed to: None

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It's been awhile since I've posted, but if some of you remember I have been saving for my third vehicle, while Purchasing my first. A lot has happened since my last thread where I had decided on a second or third generation Camry, but had my heart set on a first generation Beetle or Miata.

I've been pressed since I've found out that purchasing a car at my age becomes a family matter. Some of my relatives are pressing me to purchase a larger vehicle I can't afford to maintain, or in some cases isnt practical for me.

I posted earlier that my mom had reluctanly gave me a form of blessing towards a Miata and today gave me a reassured one leaving me with the quote "you're the one who has to live with it". Frankly this is all I need, I have my blessing ( my dad was already in board, but he's cool with me getting a motorcycle as well sooo..).

The way things are working, after my explorer kicked the bucket my parents waived my rent ago allow me to pay off the repair I had on the Explorer and use the rent money to save for a car, the catch is that in February I have to start paying rent again.

Thankfully in two paychecks and a tax return away from $1600-2k. This is what I'm working with and frankly I'm all aware that a car this cheap will have its problems, but my three hour one way bus trips to school aren't worth what could be a thirty minute drive.

I'm stepping up and I'm going to purchase a car I can afford that I want, my money my choice. Like my mom said, I have to live with it. #growingupisstressful

ADabOfOppo; Gone Plaid (Instructables Can Be Confusable) > Matthew Phillips 12/15/2014 at 11:40

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Why are your parents making you pay rent to live at home!?

That's super lame.

Matthew Phillips > ADabOfOppo; Gone Plaid (Instructables Can Be Confusable) 12/15/2014 at 11:44

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meh

jariten1781 > ADabOfOppo; Gone Plaid (Instructables Can Be Confusable) 12/15/2014 at 11:56

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Disagree, assuming they can afford it they should kick in. Calling it rent and making it structured just makes it easy.

Now, if it forced them to overly struggle, that'd be lame...doesn't sound like that here though since they're willing to waive it when things come up.

ADabOfOppo; Gone Plaid (Instructables Can Be Confusable) > jariten1781 12/15/2014 at 12:03

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No.

If his parents are trying to teach him how the real world works, then they would have found him a nice place managed by someone connection of theirs and helped him move out.

Since he is still living at home, they obviously don't think he's ready, or old enough to live on his own.

Making him pay rent to live at home with them is just a passive-aggressive dick move on their part to recoup their expenses for raising him this far. It's super lame and childish.

SantaRita > ADabOfOppo; Gone Plaid (Instructables Can Be Confusable) 12/15/2014 at 12:11

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My brother lived at home until he was 24. rent seems appropriate after you're a certain age. it's probably cheaper then anywhere else including living with roommates.

jariten1781 > ADabOfOppo; Gone Plaid (Instructables Can Be Confusable) 12/15/2014 at 12:15

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If they're forcing him to stay there and forcing him to pay rent I agree with you.

If, like it was for me, I could move out or stay at home for a decent price with the safety net, cheap food, cheap to no utilities, good parking, nice neighborhood, etc. it's a win win.

I suppose it's the difference of

"You're ready to move out and we're ready for you to, but if you want to stay that's cool but you're going to have to kick in"

vs.

"You're not capable of handling yourself, but we're dicks so pay us"

I've only seen the prior. Frankly, if it was the latter I'd expect most people to pack up and find some roommates.

SantaRita > Matthew Phillips 12/15/2014 at 12:23

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Matthew,

My advice would be to focus on keeping one good car going. If it's a miata so be it, but don't spread yourself thin and have three vehicles to maintain when you could be stacking that cash up for a truly great all-around car.

ADabOfOppo; Gone Plaid (Instructables Can Be Confusable) > jariten1781 12/15/2014 at 12:40

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From his post, it sounds like he's around 16. The whole first car thing leads one to make that assumption, and I know full well it is an assumption.

At 16-20, education status depending; like if you're 20 and going to college, parents should still be letting you live at home for free. That's what they signed up for by becoming parents.

Now, if you're 26, out of college and still living at home rent free, that's another issue entirely.

jsemerica > Matthew Phillips 12/15/2014 at 12:47

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You should buy the car that you want, don't listen to what other people say unless they've owned that car.

Matthew Phillips > SantaRita 12/15/2014 at 13:06

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I sold the other two months ago.

Matthew Phillips > ADabOfOppo; Gone Plaid (Instructables Can Be Confusable) 12/15/2014 at 13:11

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it's not even that lol, I can't afford an apartment while working part time and going to school full time. Believe me the second I get iut of school I'm going full time and saving for my own place.

The cheapest one bedrooms in my area are $900-1200 per month. I'm bring in $800-950 per month. Frankly I don't have any financially reliable friends. I'm completely fine living at home till I can afford to nove out, and I'll be running.

SantaRita > Matthew Phillips 12/15/2014 at 15:48

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so go get a miata already :)

i went from a Volvo 240 to an RX7 when i was ~17...best thing was not having to haul people and their crap around anymore ;)

MM54 > Matthew Phillips 12/15/2014 at 16:28

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My first car (in 2011) was (well, is, I still have it tucked away) a 1971 Chevelle in entirely-original condition. My mother was ready to kill me, until she saw how utterly happy it make me to work on, drive, wax, touch, look at, etc. Then she went from hating it to just not liking its total lack of safety, well, anything. Especially the whole lap-belts thing.